Shushing that Self-Doubt and Finding Your Way Again

So, I fell off the writing wagon for a bit but am back at it again! I promise I am trying to make this a weekly thing. I’m allowed to make mistakes, every now and then at least. 🙂

Lately I have had this terrible and uneasy feeling, like a dreary, gray cloud following me everywhere I go. I have been in this funk and I do not like it one bit. It’s a natural part of life, to hit a wall at times. To throw our hands up and just want to talk away from it all. I feel, especially as a 20-something in today’s world, that I should definitely have it a lot more together than I do. It’s crazy isn’t it? When you look back on where you pictured your life heading and where you are actually at today. Our ability to wind up precisely where we are supposed to be when we are open to opportunities is something that will continually amaze me. In all honesty, I thought I would graduate college and be working for a country club or hotel somewhere by now. If you told me I would be serving and nannying while trying to figure out my next move, I definitely would never have believed you.

In a world where we are surrounded my social media and bombarded by seemingly perfect (a.k.a photoshopped/altered/edited) images daily, it can feel impossible to not compare ourselves to others. From envying others’ travel experiences and successful careers to everything in between, I too have fallen victim to the “Comparison Trap.” This occurs when we live a life where we feel as if we are supposed to be doing something better or different, instead of patiently working hard to get where we are destined to be. It is easy to fall into this and can be tricky to get out of. However, I have found a few tricks and tips for when you feel overwhelmed by it all:

  • Just Breathe – I know this sounds silly because you are probably breathing at this very moment right? But, how often do you take the time to just sit and be? It’s refreshing and calming, all the while providing us with a different perception of what’s really going on. Sit in silence. Do yoga. Meditate. Find whatever works for you and roll with that. Anything to get out of your own head. Doing yoga for even 5 or 10 minutes relaxes me and reminds me that my stresses aren’t as important as I am making them out to be, but rather, are exaggerated in my mind. We are so small in this large world and feeling grounded again gives you the space to center and refocus.
  • Journal – Just write. I mean it. Literally, anything and everything that comes to your mind. Get it all out there on paper. What’s that? Oh, you aren’t a writer you say. Yep, heard that one before. Guess what? That doesn’t matter here friends because you are writing 100% for yourself. You have every right to express whatever it is that’s building up inside. Who knows? You might even end up liking it.
  • Get Outside – Seriously. Walk out your front door and go wherever your feet take you. Go for a hike. Get lost in a forest. (Not completely though.) Dip your toes in a lake. Breathe in the elements that have been nurturing us for thousands of years. Visit somewhere you haven’t been. Remind yourself of the beauty that surrounds you every day, whether it’s mountains, grassy fields or big, open sky. It’s incredible what a change in perspective will do to your soul.
  • Unplug – Take a social media break. The last time I did a Facebook detox (check out the post here!), I felt much more in touch with myself and saw what I was capable of accomplishing when I put away that part of my life for awhile. Social media can be an immensely useful tool and asset, but it can also be the cause of stress and anxiety. You’ll be surprised by how much time you’ll have when you disconnect. Small, every day things you may not have noticed before become wonderful again. You’ll be able to catch up on hobbies or activities you may have been putting off. Finally, you can genuinely spend time with the people you care about because you aren’t obsessively glancing at your phone every 10 seconds. I mean it. Take a break for as long as you need. Heck, it could end up being forever. It sounds scary but I can assure you, you will not regret it.
  • No Self-Doubt Allowed – We all experience this and I know that. Every now and then a good cry or kickboxing session to release some frustration is acceptable. But, do not start heading down that dark and twisty road because that train will keep right on going. Pump the brakes, stat. Call up a friend. Do something fun. Make a list of everything wonderful and amazing in your life. Remind yourself of how truly magnificent you are! You have a beautiful soul and unique talents to offer others in this life. Don’t waste that. Create. Dream. Inspire. Go out there and be the absolute best you.

And you ask “What if I fall?”
Oh but my darling,
What if you fly?”

-Erin Hanson

Thanks for reading friends! Would love to hear any tips and tricks you all have as well.

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