“Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courage, not weakness.” -Katherine Henson
There is something to be said for the dreamers. For the ones who can see the goodness in everyone and every situation. It isn’t always an easy road. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. I know this because I’m one of those people. From the moment I meet someone, I will believe you’re a good person, until I’ve been proven otherwise.
Do I have my bad days and moments of weakness? Oh yes. Days where I want to quit, where the world and everybody in it are just too much to bear? Yes, again. I have human emotions and baggage, causing me to “check myself before I wreck myself” at times. I am not immune to the challenges caused by the obstacles of life in my search for….whatever the heck it is I’m searching for. So, do not think anything along those lines friends. However, I am a believer in finding the good.
I can definitely be one of those people that you might find annoying at times. In high school I was voted “Most Likely to Brighten Your Day.” In job interviews, I was always highlighting my ability to encourage others, as well as my positive attitude. I was the girl that was always smiling and making sure everybody had a great day. (No wonder I ended up in hospitality.) No matter what was going on at home, this part of my life came naturally. I would do whatever I could to make a bad situation better. My peppiness and positivity was, in large part, what made me Heather.
At this point you are probably thinking, “That’s great Heather. Thanks for all these tidbits taken from your fascinating life.” Or, you’re more than likely not. The point is, I tell you this because I have met other people like myself on this journey. I know there are others that look at life “through rose-colored glasses.” (Or so I’ve been told.) Oh yes, I’ve heard all of them. “You’re naive.” “Just wait, you’ll change your mind one day.” “It’s easier to expect that people are inherently bad because then you won’t be disappointed.”
Perhaps you are reading this and nodding your head or maybe you are thinking of so-and-so. Whatever it is, you’re not alone. I want to take you by the hand and tell you to never, ever change, no matter how hard it may seem. No matter how much the world and other people will try to make you jaded, you can still make that choice to see the goodness in others.
The funny thing is, I’ve been disappointed by….multiple people in my life. It hasn’t been a cake walk, that’s for sure. (Who came up with that term by the way?) The people who disappointed me were simply doing the best with what they had. That isn’t a dismissal of their behavior by any means. Forgiveness for those who have done me wrong has not been an easy task.
When I think about how I’ve been disappointed in my life and by whom, it was always those that I least expected. If I had gone into those situations expecting to be hurt, would it have changed anything? Probably not. Instead, I learned and I grew. I became tougher for the next time around.
Disclaimer: Do not let people walk all over you. There’s a fine line between being a doormat and viewing the world optimistically. Do not cross it. At all. Ever. We don’t have time for those shenannigans here.
I’m not here to judge what makes a person good or bad. (Though there are some fairly simple moral codes in the Game of Life that all should abide by.) I’m to the point where I have removed the negativity and instead, keep the people around that lift me up and share the same values as myself.
Good things happen to bad people. Bad things happen to good people. There will always be disagreeable or unpleasant people. We will always be disappointed in some way or another, but much of that comes from unrealistic expectations created in our minds, whereas we can neither label a situation as good or bad, but rather, that it just is.
The one constant I have found to be true is that if you look for good, good will find you.
Call me naive. Say that I don’t know what I’m talking about. It won’t be the last time I hear it. I know that every day I go into the world with a viewpoint like this I will be tested. Just as I was created to be stubborn, sassy, highly sensitive and hilarious (maybe that last one is more of a personal opinion), this is me. Perhaps you won’t see things the way I do and I won’t spend my time trying to convince you. But, would you rather have a life spent cultivating goodness through compassion for others or one spent in bitterness until your very last days on this Earth? That’s up to you.